Did I Marry the right person?

so, let's "make love" DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown.

People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you.

You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love. Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... not just a feeling.

Participate with me on this. I only sent this to folks whose answers arebound to be clever! This is what you are supposed to do, try not to be LAMEand spoil the fun! Just give in and do it. Copy, not forward, this entiree-blog and paste it into new blog.

Change all the answers so that they apply to you then send this to awholebunch of people you know *including*the person who sent it to you. Thetheory is that you will learn a lot of little known facts about yourfriends. It is fun and easy. 51 questions to answer.

1. FIRST NAME Glasel

2. ARE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE? Yes, First three letters are after my grandma and last three from mymom. Put them together and it spelled gla-sel

3. WHEN DID YOU LAST CRY? I think it was Friday because I was cramping

4. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING? sometimes

5. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT? honey turkey

6. KIDS? Joel, Sydney, Dyezabelle and another girl on the way

7. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON WOULD YOU BE FRIENDSWITH YOU? I think I would

8. DO YOU HAVE A JOURNAL? Not anymore, but I use too. No more time to write with the kids

9. DO YOU USE SARCASM A LOT? no not really

10. DO YOU STILL HAVE YOUR TONSILS? yes

11. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP? maybe, I've always thought about it

12. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CEREAL? Smart start and the new berry lucky charms

13. DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOES WHEN YOU TAKE THEMOFF? no.

14. DO YOU THINK YOU ARE STRONG? for my size, I think I am.

15. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM FLAVOR? Chocolate Malted Crunch, but lately I've been craving french Vanilla

16. SHOE SIZE? 5 1/2

17. RED OR PINK? red

18. WHAT IS THE LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUTYOURSELF? Can't really say, probably my size. I would like to be just a littlebit taller.

19. WHO DO YOU MISS THE MOST? my family and old friends

20. DO YOU WANT EVERYONE TO SEND THIS BACK TO YOU?yeah, sure

21 WHAT COLOR PANTS AND SHOES ARE YOU WEARING? white capris and slippers

22. WHAT COLOR SHIRT ARE YOU WEARING? baby blue

23. LAST THING YOU ATE? chocolate chip cookies

24. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW? Jack Johnson, very melow and relaxing.

25. IF YOU WERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOUBE? Red

26. PETS? Pandora our cute puppy

27. WHO IS THE LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THEPHONE? My husband...=)

28. THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE YOUARE ATTRACTED TO? their face and there smile

29. DO YOU LIKE THE PERSON WHO SENT THIS TO YOU? yes! very much!!

30. FAVORITE DRINK? Chai blended ice tea

31. FAVORITE SPORT? soft ball

32. EYE COLOR: brown

33. HAT SIZE? I don't know, not a hat person

34. DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS? Yes

35. FAVORITE FOOD? a juicy steak

36. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDING? happy endings

37. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED AT THE MOVIES? it's been so long...don't remember

38. SUMMER OR WINTER? winter

39. HUGS OR KISSES? Both it depends who giving them lol

40. FAVORITE DESSERT? anything chocolate , but anything .that sweet and good. CAKE!!!

41. PERSON MOST LIKELY TO RESPOND? ??

42. LEAST LIKELY TO RESPOND? ??

43. WHAT BOOKS ARE YOU READING? baby names

44. WHAT'S ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? Marvin the Martian

45. WHAT DID YOU WATCH ON TV LAST NIGHT? Psych

46. FAVORITE SOUNDS? nature and kids happy

47. ROLLING STONES OR BEATLES? Rolling Stones

48. THE FURTHEST YOU'VE BEEN FROM HOME? Hawaii

49. WHAT'S YOUR SPECIAL TALENT? putting up with my husband & kids...LOL

50. WHEN AND WHERE WERE YOU BORN? March 13, 1975 Agat, Guam

51 . WHO SENT THIS TO YOU? Michelle and Jarett...=)